Visting Graves of Faithful believers

"It is one of the rights of a Muslim over another Muslim that he should visit his grave."Imam Ja'fer As-Sadiq (A.S.)  
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Merits of Visiting the Tombs of Faithful Believers
The trustworthy and sublime Shaykh Ja`far ibn Qawlawayh al-Qummi reports `Amr ibn `Uthman al-Razi as saying that he heard Imam Abu’l-Hasan Musa ibn Ja`far, peace be upon him, saying, “Whoever is unable to visit us, may visit the righteous adherents of us.
If he does so, he will be endued with the reward of visiting us. Likewise, whoever is unable to connect us, may connect the righteous adherents of us. If he does so, he will also be endued with the reward of connecting us.”
Through an authentic chain of authority, Muhammad ibn Ahmad ibn Yahya al-Ash`ari is reported to have said, “I was in Fayd (a station on the way of Makkah) when I accompanied `Ali ibn Bilal in visiting the grave of Muhammad ibn Isma`il ibn Buzaygh. `Ali related to me, saying: The one buried in this grave told me that Imam al-Rida (`a) said, ‘Whoever comes to the graves of his brother-in-faith and puts his hand on the grave ,directs his face towards the kiblah and recites Surah al-Qadr (No. 97) seven times, will be secured on the Great Horror Day.”
From the apparent point of this tradition, we may understand that security on the Resurrection Day will be for the one who recites that Surah (i.e. the visitor of the grave) although it is probable that the one intended may be the visited one. This meaning is supported by a coming report of Sayyid Ibn Tawus:

In the book of Kamil al-Ziyarah, it is reported through a valid chain of authority that `Abd al-Rahman ibn Abu-`Abdullah asked Imam al-Sadiq (`a) to teach him how to put his hands of the graves of Muslims.
Teaching him, the Imam (`a) put his hand on the ground while facing the kiblah direction.
Through an authentic chain of authority, `Abdullah ibn Sinan has reported that he asked Imam al-Sadiq (`a) to teach him how to salute the inhabitants in graves. The Imam (`a) replied that he might say the following words:

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السَّلاَمُ عَلَىٰ اهْلِ ٱلدِّيَارِ مِنَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَٱلْمُسْلِمِينَ
alssalamu `ala ahli alddiyari min almu'minina walmuslimina
Peace be upon the inhabitants of these graves, the faithful believers and Muslims.
انْتُمْ لَنَا فَرَطٌ
antum lana faratun
You have preceded us,
وَنَحْنُ إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللَّهُ بِكُمْ لاََحِقُونَ
wa nahnu in sha'a allahu bikum lahiquna
and we, Allah willing, shall join you.

Imam al-Husayn, peace be upon him, is reported to have said that whoever enters a graveyard and says the following words, Almighty Allah will record for him rewards that are as many as the creatures from the time of (Prophet) Adam up to the coming of the Hour (of Resurrection):
اَللَّهُمَّ رَبَّ هٰذِهِ ٱلارْوَاحِ ٱلْفَانِيَةِ
allahumma rabba hadhihi al-arwahi alfaniyati
O Allah, O Lord of these extinct souls,
وَٱلاجْسَادِ ٱلْبَالِيَةِ
wal-ajsadi albaliyati
rotten bodies,
وَٱلْعِظَامِ ٱلنَّخِرَةِ
wal`izami alnnakhirati
and crumbled bones
ٱلَّتِي خَرَجَتْ مِنَ ٱلدُّنْيَا وَهِيَ بِكَ مُؤْمِنَةٌ
allati kharajat min alddunya wa hiya bika mu'minatun
that left this worldly life bearing faith in You,
ادْخِلْ عَلَيْهِمْ رَوْحاً مِنْكَ وَسَلاَماً مِنِّي
adkhil `alayhim rawhan minka wa salaman minni
(please) insert into them rest from You and salutation from me.

Imam `Ali, peace be upon him, is reported to have said that whoever enters a graveyard and says the following words, Almighty Allah will grant him the reward of fifty-year worship and erases from him and his parents the punishment of fifty-year wrongdoings:
اَلسَّلاَمُ عَلَىٰ اهْلِ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
alssalamu `la ahli la ilaha illa allahu
Peace be upon the group of “There is no god save Allah”
مِنْ اهْلِ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
min ahli la ilaha illa allahu
from the group of “There is no god save Allah.”
يَا اهْلَ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
ya ahla la ilaha illa allahu
O group of “There is no god save Allah,”
بِحَقِّ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
bihaqqi la ilaha illa allahu
in the name of “There is no god save Allah,”
كَيْفَ وَجَدْتُمْ قَوْلَ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
kayfa wajadtum qawla la ilaha illa allahu
how have you found the profession of “There is no god save Allah”
مِنْ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
min la ilaha illa allahu
from “There is no god save Allah?”
يَا لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
ya la ilaha illa allahu
O He to Whom “There is no god save Allah” is said,
بِحَقِّ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
bihaqqi la ilaha illa allahu
I beseech You in the name of “There is no god save Allah”
ٱغْفِرْ لِمَنْ قَالَ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
ighfir liman qala la ilaha illa allahu
to forgive any one who professed that “There is no god save Allah”
وَٱحْشُرْنَا فِي زُمْرَةِ مَنْ قَالَ لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ ٱللَّهُ
wahshurna fi zumrati man qala la ilaha illa allahu
and to include us in the group of those who professed that “There is no god save Allah.
مُحَمَّدٌ رَسُولُ ٱللَّهِ
muhammadun rasulu allahi
Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.
عَلِيٌّ وَلِيُّ ٱللَّهِ `
aliyyun waliyyu allahi
`Ali is the authority from Allah.”
According to another tradition, the best thing to be said whenever one passes by a graveyard is the following words, after stopping there:
اَللَّهُمَّ وَلِّهِمْ مَا تَوَلَّوْٱ
allahumma wallihim ma tawallaw
O Allah, (please) turn them to that to which they have turned
وَٱحْشُرْهُمْ مَعَ مَنْ احَبُّوٱ
wahshurhum ma`a man ahabbu
and join them to those whom they have loved.

In his book of Misbah al-Za'ir, Sayyid ibn Tawus says: When you intend to visit the graves of the faithful believers, you may choose Thursday; otherwise, you may visit them on any other day. To do so, you may turn your face towards the kiblah direction, put your hand on the grave, and say the following  words:
اَللَّهُمَّ ٱرْحَمْ غُرْبَتَهُ
allahumma irham ghurbatahu
O Allah, (please) have mercy on his strangeness,
وَصِلْ وَحْدَتَهُ
wa sil wahdatahu
connect his loneliness,
وَآنِسْ وَحْشَتَهُ
wa anis wahshatahu
entertain his isolation,
وَآمِنْ رَوْعَتَهُ
wa amin raw`atahu
secure his horror,
وَاسْكِنْ إِِلَيْهِ مِنْ رَحْمَتِكَ
wa askin ilayhi min rahmatika
attach Your mercy to him;
رَحْمَةً يَسْتَغْنِي بِهَا عَنْ رَحْمَةِ مَنْ سِوَاكَ
rahmatan yastaghni biha `an rahmati man siwaka
such mercy by which he can do without the mercy of anyone other than You,
وَالْحِقْهُ بِمَنْ كَانَ يَتَوَلاَّهُ
wa alhiqhu biman kana yatawallahu
and join him to those to whom he has adhered.
You may then recite Surah al-Qadr seven times.
The method and rewards of visiting the graves of faithful believers have been demonstrated in another tradition reported from Fudayl who, accordingly, said: As to any one who recites Surah al-Qadr at the grave of a faithful believer seven times,
Almighty Allah will send to him an angel who will worship Him (i.e. Almighty Allah) next to that grave and the reward of all the devotional acts that are done by that angel will be recorded for the dead person.
When Almighty Allah raises him from the grave, He will make easy for him all the horrors by which he will pass until he is allowed to enter Paradise.
Along with Surah al-Qadr, Surah al-Fatihah (No. 1), Surah al-Tawhid (No. 112), Surah al-Falaq (No. 113), Surah al-Nas (No. 114), and ªyah al-Kursi (2:155) may be also recited three times each.
Another tradition on the same subject reads that Muhammad ibn Muslim asked Imam al-Sadiq, peace be upon him, “Should we visit the dead people?”
“Yes, you should,” replied the Imam.
“Will they know about us when we visit them?” asked Muhammad.
“Yes, I swear it by Allah,” said the Imam (`a), “they do know about you, feel glad with that, and find entertainment with your visits.”
“What should we say when we visit them?” asked Muhammad.
The Imam answered, “You may say the following words:
اَللَّهُمَّ جَافِ ٱلارْضَ عَنْ جُنُوبِهِمْ
allahumma jafi al-arda `an junubihim
O Allah, (please) prevent the soil from harming their sides,
وَصَاعِدْ إِلَيْكَ ارْوَاحَهُمْ
wa sa`id ilayka arwahahum
take their souls up to You,
وَزِدْهُمْ مِنْكَ رِضْوَاناً
wa laqqihim minka ridwanan
increase Your pleasure with them,
وَاسْكِنْ إِلَيْهِمْ مِنْ رَحْمَتِكَ
wa askin ilayhim min rahmatika
and make part of Your mercy dwell with them
مَا تَصِلُ بِهِ وَحْدَتَهُمْ
ma tasilu bihi wahdatahum
so that You will save them from loneliness
وَتُؤْنِسُ وَحْشَتَهُمْ
wa tu'nisu bihi wahshatahum
and entertain their isolation.
إِنَّكَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ
innaka `ala kulli shay'in qadirun
Verily, You have power over all things.”

Sayyid Ibn Tawus then added: While you are in a graveyard, you should recite Surah al-Tawhid eleven times and dedicate the reward to the dead. It has been reported that Almighty Allah will reward the one who does so as many folds as the number of the dead persons in that graveyard.
In the book of Kamil al-Ziyarah, Imam al-Sadiq (`a) is reported to have said, “If you visit your dead people before sunrise, they will hear and reply to you. If you visit them after sunrise, they will hear you but they will not reply you.”
In al-Rawandi’s book of al-Da`awat, there is a tradition reported from the Holy Prophet (s) entailing discommendation of visiting the dead at night. The Holy Prophet (s) is reported to have said to Abu-Dharr, “Do not visit them frequently at night.”
In the collection of Shaykh al-Shahid, the Holy Prophet (s) is reported to have said: Whoever repeats the following words at a grave three times, Almighty Allah shall certainly remove from the dead person in that grave the chastisement on the Resurrection Day:
اَللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي اسْالُكَ
allahumma inni as'aluka
O Allah, I do beseech You
بِحَقِّ مُحَمَّدٍ وَآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ
bihaqqi muhammadin wa ali muhammadin
in the name of Muhammad and the Household of Muhammad
انْ لاَ تُعَذِّبَ هٰذَا ٱلْمَيِّتَ
an la tu`adhdhiba hadha almayyita
not to torment this dead.
The following tradition is recorded in the book of Jami` al-Akhbar as reported from one of the Holy Prophet’s companions:
One day, the Holy Prophet (s) said, “Give presents to your dead people.”
“O Allah’s Messenger,” we asked, “what should we give as presents to our dead people?”
“You should present them alms and supplications,” instructed the Holy Prophet (s).
He then added, “Every Friday, the souls of the believers come down to the lowest sky directly on their houses and homes and each one of them cry out with sad tone and weep, saying,
‘O my family members! O my sons! O my father! O my mother! O my relatives! Be kind to us, may Allah have mercy upon you, by presenting us some of that which was possessed by us! Now, woe and perdition are to us while the benefits are to others!’
Each one of the dead then cry out to his relatives, saying, ‘Be kind to us by giving as alms a dirham, a loaf of bread, or a dress so that Almighty Allah will dress you from the garments of Paradise.’”

The Holy Prophet (s) then wept so heavily that he could not keep on talking. We also wept.
He then added, “Those are your brothers-in-faith. They became rotten dust after pleasure and bliss. They now express grief and lamentation, saying, ‘Woe be to us! Had we given as alms all that which was possessed by us, seeking Almighty Allah’s pleasure and obeying Him, we would not have been in need for you.’ They then return with regret and grief, calling out, ‘Hurry up in giving the alms of the dead!’”
The Holy Prophet (s) is also reported to have said, “Whatever alms you give on behalf of the dead, an angel will take that alms in a plate of light, while the alms is shining, to the seventh sky. He then stops at the brink of a ditch and says, ‘Peace be upon you, O inhabitants of the graves. Your people have gifted you this present.’ As the angel enters the grave with that alms, these graves are extended for their inhabitants.
Verily, whoever dedicates an alms to a dead person will be given by Almighty Allah rewards that are as great as Mount Uhud. On the Resurrection Day, he will be placed under the shadow of Almighty Allah’s Throne when there shall be no shadow except Allah’s. Because of that alms, he will be saved in his lifetime and after his death.”

It has been told that the governor of Khurasan was seen in dream saying, “Send to me the leftovers that you give to the dogs, because I am in urgent need for these leftovers.”
In conclusion, visiting the graves of faithful believers brings about an abundant reward in addition to great advantages and outcomes.
It gives lessons in religiousness, draws attentions to the reality of our worldly lives, encourages asceticism and abstinence from worldly pleasures, and arouses the desire for the Hereafter.
Visiting the graves becomes highly recommended for those who are highly delighted or extremely distressed.
A true reasonable is he who learns lessons from graves, stripping himself of the sweetness of this worldly life and changing its sweet taste into bitterness, he who ponders over the inevitable extinction of this worldly life and the ceaseless changeability of its manners, and he who always remembers that very soon, he will be just like these inhabitants of graves, will fail to do any further charitable deed, and will be lesson for others.
It is reported that Almighty Allah revealed to Prophet Jesus (`a), saying:
يَا عِيسَىٰ، هَبْ لِي مِنْ عَيْنَيْكَ ٱلدُّمُوعَ وَمِنْ قَلْبِكَ ٱلْخُشُوعَ وَاكْحِلْ عَيْنَيْكَ بِمَيْلِ ٱلْحُزْنِ إِذَا ضَحِكَ ٱلبَطَّالُونَ وَقُمْ عَلَىٰ قُبُورِ ٱلامْوَاتِ فَنَادِهِمْ بِٱلصَّوْتِ ٱلرَّفِيعِ لَعَلَّكَ تَاخُذُ مَوْعِظَتَكَ مِنْهُمْ وَقُلْ: إِنِّي لاَحِقٌ بِهِمْ فِي ٱللاَّحِقِينَ.
O Jesus, devote to Me tears of your eyes and reverence of your heart. Darken your eyes with the stick of sadness when the idle ones laugh. Stop at the graves of the death and call on them with mournful tone so that you may learn lessons from them, saying, “I shall join you among all those who will join you.

Duas for deceased Parents

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It is reprehensible (not desirable) to erect high gravestones, but rather low ones.
Visiting cemeteries, asking forgiveness for the dead, praying for them and reciting Qurán by their graves, is commendable (mustahab); they benefit from dedicating the reward of these acts.
It is commendable to condole the family of the deceased, that is, encouraging them to be steadfast and reminding them of the reward for it. It is also desirable to pray for the deceased and the family before and after burial.
There are no specific words for offering condolences (anything you say will do). It is desirable to condole all members of the family- men women and children- except the young women who are marriageable (ajnabi).
It is commendable to prepare a meal for the family of the deceased as the Prophet (s) ordered when Jafer ibn Abi Talib (a) died.
Crying is permitted, not reprehensible (makrooh); the Prophet (s) cried over his son Ibrahim and over Othman bin Madh’un and other companions.
Scratching the face, pulling the hair and uttering falsehood while crying, are forbidden.
The majority of Moslems and numerous traditions (hadith) have agreed upon the desirability of visiting graves.
Members of Ahl al-Bayt (s) were quoted as saying: “ Those who are unable to visit our graves may visit our prominent followers’ graves; the reward is the same.
On the grave you are visiting recite: use &
1.   Suratul Fatiha three times
2.   Suratul Qadr three times
3.   Ayatul Kursi three times
4.   Suratul Falaq three times
5.   Suratun Naas three times
6.   Suratu Yaseen
Any dua asking Allah's forgiveness for the marhum/a
Respect the sanctity of the grave yard. The prophet (S.A.W.) has said:
"If I have to walk over burning desert or fire or to place my foot on the edge of a sharp sword, I would prefer it to trampling on the grave of a Muslim."
He also said to Imam Ali (A.S.):
"Ya Ali! Allah considers a few things undesirable for my followers. One of them is laughing in a graveyard…..

Du’a for entering a graveyard as narrated from Imam Husayn (ؑ):
اَللّٰهُمَّ رَبَّ هذِهِ الْاَرْوَاحِ الْفَانِيَةِ ،وَالْاَجْسَادِ الْبَالِيَةِ ، وَالْعِظَامِ النَّخِرَةِ ، اَلَّتِي خَرَجَتْ مِنَ الدُّنْيَا وَهِىَ بِكَ مُؤْمِنَةٌ ، اَدْخِلْ عَلَيْهِمْ رَوْحاً مِنْكَ وَسَلاَماً مِنِّي.
Allahumma rabba hadhihil arwa hil faniyah, wal ajsadil baliyah, wal ‘idhami-n-nakhirah, allati kharajat min ad-dunya wa hiya bika mu’minah, adkhil ‘alayhim rawhan minka wa salaman minni.
O Allah, the Creator, Nourisher, and Protector of these souls whose stay in this world was temporary, of these bodies that are decomposed, and of these bones that have rotted – those who left this world while they had faith in You. Give them spirit and happiness from You and convey my greetings of peace to them.

Ziyarat of those who are buried narrated from Imam ‘Ali (ؑ) to be recited upon entering a graveyard:
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمـٰنِ الرَّحيمِ ، اَلسَّلاَمُ عَلىٰ اَهْلِ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ مِنْ اَهْلِ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ، يَا اَهْلَ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ، بِحَقِّ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ ، كَيْفَ وَجَدْتُمْ  قَوْلَ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ مِنْ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ ، يَا لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ ، بِحَقِّ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ ، اِغْفِرْ لِمَنْ قَالَ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ ، وَاحْشُرْنَا فِي زُمْرَةِ مَنْ قَالَ لاَ اِلـٰهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ ، مُحَمَّدٌ رَسُولُ اللهِ عَلِىٌّ وَلِىُّ اللهِ.
Assalamu ‘ala ahli la ilaha illa-l-lahu min ahli la ilaha illallah,
Ya ahla la ilaha illallah, bi haqqi la ilaha illallah,
Kayfa wajadtum qawla la ilaha illa-l-lahu min la ilaha illallah,
Ya la ilaha illallah, bi haqqi la ilaha illallah,
Ighfir liman qala la ilaha illallah,
Wahshurna fi zumrati man qala la ilaha illallah,
Muhammadu-r-rasulullahi ‘aliyyun waliyyullah
In the Name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Merciful
Peace be upon the people of the creed of Divine Unity (tawhid) who said: La ilaha illallah (there is no god but Allah), from those of us who follow the creed of La ilaha illallah.
O those who follow the creed of La ilaha illallah!
By the sake of La ilaha illallah!
How do you find the result of having followed the creed of La ilaha illallah? (That result which comes) from One who there is no god but He (Allah).
O Allah – one who there is no god but You!
By the sake of La ilaha illallah!
Forgive those who follow the creed of La ilaha illallah,
And resurrect us along with those who believe in and say: There is no god but Allah, Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, ‘Ali is the beloved of Allah.  
According to a tradition narrated from the 6th Imam, Imam Sadiq (ؑ), those who are buried recognize those who visit them and find comfort and happiness in their company.
To be recited when next to a grave:
Supplication #1
Face the direction of qiblah, place your hand on the grave, and recite:
اَللّٰهُمَّ ارْحَمْ غُرْبَتَهُ ، وَ صِلْ وَحْدَتَهُ ، وَ آنِسْ وَحْشَتَهُ ، وَ آمِنْ رَوْعَتَهُ ، وَ أَسْكِنْ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ رَحْمَتِكَ رَحْمَةً يَسْتَغْنِي بِهَا عَنْ رَحْمَةِ مَنْ سِوَاكَ ، وَأَلْحِقْهُ بِمَنْ كَانَ يَتَوَلاَّهُ.
Allahummarham ghurbatah, wa sil wahdatah, wa anis wahshatah, wa amin raw‘atah, wa askin ilayhi min rahmatik, rahmatan yastaghni biha ‘an rahmati man siwak, wa alhiqhu bi man kana yatawallah.
O Allah, have mercy on his exile and separation, take away his loneliness, relieve his fear, let Your mercy be a companion in his grave, such mercy that he will be free of need of mercy from anyone other than You, and join him with whomever he used to love and follow.
Then recite the chapter of Qadr (inna anzalna) 7 times. Supplication #2
اَللّٰهُمَّ جَافِ الأَرْضَ عَنْ جُنُوبِهِمْ ، وَصَاعِدْ إِلَيْكَ أَرْوَاحَهُمْ ، وَلَقِّهِمْ مِنْكَ رِضْواناً ، وَ أَسْكِنْ إِلَيْهِمْ مِنْ رَحْمَتِكَ مَا تَصِلُ بِهِ وَحْدَتَهُمْ ،وَتُؤْنِسُ بِهِ وَحْشَتَهُمْ ، إِنَّكَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ.
Allahumma jafil arda ‘an junubihim, wa sa‘id ilayka arwa hahum,wa laqqihim minka ridwana, wa askin ilayhim min rahmatika ma tasilu bihi wahdatahum, wa tu’nisu bihi wahshatahum, innaka ‘ala kulli shay’in qadir. O Allah, do not let them be comfortable simply lying on their sides on the earth, (but rather) elevate their souls to You, Grant them Your pleasure,
Give them from Your mercy what will serve as a companion to their loneliness,
and what will relieve their fear,
Indeed You are capable of all things.
Supplication #3
Recite three times:
اَللّٰهُمَّ  إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ بِحَقِّ مُحَمَّدٍ وَ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ أَنْ لاَ تُعَذِّبَ هذَا الْمَيِّتَ.

Allahumma inni as’aluka bihaqqi muhammadin wa ali muhammad,
an la tu‘adh-dhiba hadhal mayyit.
O Allah, I ask you by the sake of Muhammad and the family of Muhammad to not punish this deceased.
When passing among the graves, recite surah qul huwa-llahu ahad 11 times and gift the reward of the recitation to those who are buried.