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Dua'a for getting married /proposal
In case a boy or a girl has not been able to get married & wishes to do so Recite foll :-
-Recite surah al Ahzaab (chapter 33) regularly. -Recite surah al Mumtahinah (chapter 60) five times daily,
-Recite surah at Taha (chapter 20) and blow breath on a glass of water and let the girl drink it.-Recite verse 36 of Yasin 100 times before salat of tahajjud for 40 days "subh'aanallad'ee khalaqal azwaaja kullahaa mimmaa tumbitul arz'u wa min anfusihim wa mimmaa laa ya'lamoon, "
-Recite Surah Furqan Ayat 74,75 & 76 21 times for 3 days & pray for nikah
-Recite Surah Tariq Ch86 esp on Arafat day
-It is written in Biharul Anwar that to invoke the almighty Allah that a grown up boy or a girl be suitably married carry out the following a'mal of du-a'a of Mashlul
(i) Recite du-a'a al Mashlul preferably after Fajr salat or any obligatory salat for 40 consecutive days.
(ii) Do not eat animal flesh
(iii) Always remain the state of Ablution
(iv) Wear Ihram dress at the time of reciting the du-a'a
Dua'a 181 To invoke the almighty Allah that a grown up boy or a girl be suitably married, recite the following du-a'a after giving sadaqa to deserving mumin brothers or sisters.
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“O Causer of the Causes; O He who opens the doors (to opportunities); O’ He who gives an answer to the call from wherever (He is called).” Yaa Musabbibal Asbaabi Yaa Mufattihal Abwaabi Yaa Man Haythu Maa Du-ee-Ya Ajaaba |
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-Dua'a 182 According to Biharul Anwar to invoke the almighty Allah that a grown up boy or girl be suitably married recite the following du-a'a 100 times daily for 40 consecutive days after any obligatory salat.
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“Make easy (my difficulties), by Your superabundant favours, O’ the Most Mighty.” Sahlam Bi Fadhlika Yaa `Azeez |
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-Dua'a 183 It is written in Bihar al Anwar that if a grown up girl is not receiving any offer of marriage, her father should pray a 2 rak-at salat (like Fajr salat) on Friday after Jumu-ah prayers and after the salam go into Sajdah and recite surah al Muzzammil (chapter 73) 21 times. Inshallah very soon she will be married to a suitable man.
It is written in Behaarul Anwaar that if unmanageable impediments are obstructing your marriage write the following verses (Taahaa: 131, 132) with saffron and keep it on the body. Inshallah all hindrances will disappear.
وَلاَ تَمُدَّنَّ عَيْنَيْكَ اِلٰى مَا مَتَّعْنَا بِهٖ اَزْوَاجًا مِّنْهُمْ زَهْرَةَ الْحَيٰوةِ الدُّنْيَا، لِنَفْتِنَهُمْ فِيْهِ، وَرِزْقُ رَبِّكَ خَيْرٌ وَّ اَبْقٰى. وَاْمُرْ اَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلٰوةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا، لاَ نَسْئَلُكَ رِزْقًا، نَحْنُ نَرْزُقُكَ، وَالْعَاقِبَةُ لِلتَّقْوٰى.
wa laa tamuddanna a’ynayka elaa maa matta’naa behi azwaajam minhum zahratal hayaatid dunyaa, le naftenahum feehe, wa rizqo rabbeka khayruwn wa abqaa. waamur ahlaka bis-salaate was’t’abir a’layhaa laa nas-aloka rizqaa nah’no narzoqok wal a’aqebato littaqwaa.
Do not strain your eyes towards that which we have given for enjoyment to parties (wedded pairs) of them, the splendor of the life of this world, so that we may try them in it. The provision of your lord is better and more lasting. Enjoin prayer (salat) on your followers, and adhere steadily to it, we do not ask you to provide (subsistence), (it is) We who give you subsistence; and (the good of) the hereafter is for those who safeguard themselves against evil with full awareness of divine laws.]
Dua'a 184 It is written in Biharul Anwar to write the following portion of verse 132 of at Ta Ha on a paper with the solution of musk, saffron and rose water and bind it as a Ta'wid on the right arm, if a man desires to be married soon. Bind another Ta'wid like above on the right arm of the man or woman who is negotiating the proposal of marriage.
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“It is We who give you sustenance, and the good of the hereafter is for those who have Allah consciousness and guard themselves against evil.” Nahnu Narzuquka wal `Aaqibatu Lit-Taqwa |
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-Dua'a 185 It is written in Kanzul Maknun to write the following du-a'a on a paper like a Ta'wid and bind it on the right arm of the grown up girl who is not receiving any offer of marriage. Inshallah, soon she will be married. As there is ismi a'z'am in this du-a'a, it should be removed during menses.
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O Light of everything which guides them, You are He who cuts asunder darkness with His light. yaa noora kulli shay-in wa hudaahu antallad'ee falaqaz' z'ulumaati binooruhoo |
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Dua'a 186 Matrimonial affairs proposal of Marriage According to Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq, it is written in Biharul Anwar, whoever desires to marry should recite the following du-a'a before making a formal request for marriage.
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“O’ Allah! I desire to marry, so arrange for me a woman from those who willingly abstain from what is unlawful and who safeguards her soul for my sake and because of her, not only my means of sustenance will increase, but also make there be in it abundance and also make it sure that she will give me a virtuous son, who will be a noble successor in my life and after my death.” Allahumma Innee Urreedu An Atazawwaja Faqaddir Lee Minan Nisaa-I A’fihunna Farjajan wa Ah’fadh’ihunna Lee Fee Nafsihaa Wa Awsa-i-Hunna Lee Rizwan Wa A-dhamahunna Lee Barakatan Fee Nafsihaa Wa Maaleee Faqaddir Lee Minhaa Waladan Tayyiban Tajaluhoo Khalafan Saalihan Fee Hayaatee Wa Ba`da Mawtee. |
اَللّٰهُمَّ اِنِّيْ اُرِيْدُ اَنْ اَتَزَوَّجَ فَقَدِّرْ لِيْ مِنَ النِّسَآءِ اَعْفِهُنَّ فَرْجًا وَ احْفَظِهُنَّ لِيْ فِيْ نَفْسِهَا وَ اَوْسِعْهُنَّ لِيْ رِزْقًا وَاَعْظَمِهُنَّ لِيْ بَرَكَةً فِيْ نَفْسِهَا وَ مَا لِيْ فَقَدِّرْ لِيْ مِنْهَا وَلَدًا طَيِّبًا تَجْعَلُهٗ خَلَفًا صَالِحًا فِيْ حَيَاتِيْ وَ بَعْدَمَوْتِيْ. |
Dua'a 187 It is written in Biharul Anwar that if unmanageable impediments are obstructing your marriage write the following verses (Ta Ha: 131, 132) with saffron and keep it on the body. Inshallah all hindrances will disappear.
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“Nor strain your eyes in longing for the things We have given for enjoyment to parties of them, the splendour of the life of this world, through which We test them: but the provision of thy Lord is better and more enduring. And enjoin prayer on your family, and be constant therein. We ask you not to provide sustenance: We provide it for you. But the (fruit of) the Hereafter is for righteousness.”Wa Laa Tamuddanna Aynayka Ilaa Maa Matta`-Naa Bihee Azwaajam Minhum Zahratal Hayaatid Dunyaa Linaftinahum Feeh Wa Rizqu Rabbika Kharyuw Wa Abqaa. Wa`mur Ahlaka Bis Salaati Wastabir Alayhaa Laa Nas- Aluka Rizqaa Nahnu Narzuquk Wal A`aqibatu Littaqwaa. |
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-To get your daughter married in a good family the following A’amal is recommended
i) Recite two rak-at salat with the niyat of hajaat.
ii) Then recite 11 times salawat.
iii) Then recite the five tasbih of Sayyida Fatima Zehra as under :
ALLAAHU AKBAR 34 Times ALHAMDULILLAH 34 Times SUBHANALLAH 33 Times LAA ILAHA ILLALLAH Once
iv) Recite 11 times salawat.
v) Then recite the following Surahs consequently: Taha (#20), Shu-ara (#26), Naml (#27), Qasas (#28), Ya Sin (#36) & Shura (#42).
Beseech Allah, giving wasta of the 14 Masumin (a.s.) and the marriage relationship of Imam Ali (a.s.) and Sayyida Fatima (a.s.) and pray for the girls of our community and then your own daughter(s).
In the name of Allah, the Most Kind, the Most Merciful
- Importance of Early Marriage in Islam
A Social, Cultural, Educational & Religious E-Forum Under the Facilitation of the World Federation of KSI Muslim Communities Issue No. 07-06, May 26, 2006 / Rabi' al Thaani 27, 1427 AH
The institution of marriage has been given tremendous importance in Islam. Generally, in the terms of jurisprudence it is highly recommended, but in many cases due to extraordinary circumstances, it becomes obligatory and a religious duty. For instance, marriage becoming obligatory when there is a chance of adultery or any other similar sin.
The Holy Prophet (SAW) said,"The best people of my Umma are those who get married and have chosen their wives and the worst people of my nation are those who have kept away from marriage and are passing their lives as bachelors."(Mustadrakul Wasail by Muhaddith Noori, Vol 2, Pg 531).
As one matures physically, sexual desires develop in the individual and gradually both girls and boys start getting attracted to each other, which slowly develops into some sort of psychological pressure. This natural and undirected emotion gradually seeks solace in whatever form possible. Unfortunately more often than not, it results in the youngsters deviating from the right path and indulging in some unwanted and undesired habits. Before becoming victims of ill-directed lust, it is better for them to get married and settle down. Therefore, the leaders of Islam have advised their followers to follow this most important Sunnah. As the Holy Prophet (SAW) states:"O youths, whosoever among you can marry, he should do so because marriage protects your eyes (from indulging in sin by looking lustfully at others in privacy."(Makaarimul Akhlaq).
Imam Sadiq (AS) narrates that one day the Holy Prophet (SAW) went on the pulpit and said,"O people, Jibraeel has brought unto me a divine command stating that girls are like fruits from a tree. If they are not plucked in time then they get rotten by the rays of the sun and a slight blow of the wind will result in their falling down from the tree. Similarly, when girls attain maturity, then like other women they develop emotions related to sex and there is no cure for it except her husband. If they are not married, prevention of character corruption becomes a remote possibility because after all they are human beings and no human is free from vice."(Furoo-e-Kafi, Vol 5, Pg 337).
In yet another tradition from Mustadrakul Wasail it is narrated that"When a youngster marries early in his youth, Shaitaan cries out of desperation and says, Alas! This person has protected one third of his religion, now he will protect the remaining two thirds also."
Imam Sadiq (as) narrates from the Holy Prophet (saww) that he said,"Those believers who marry, protect half of their religion from danger."
In yet another tradition, Imam Sadiq (as) says,"Two Rak'as of a married person is better than seventy Rak'as of an unmarried one."(Wasailush Shia, Vol 5, Pg 1)
The Holy Prophet (saww) once said,"Whoever marries, protects half of his religion, then for the remaining half he must only fear God."(La'alil Akhbar).
The sixth Imam, Imam Sadiq (as) says,"A sleeping married man is better than a fasting unmarried man."
The Messenger of Islam (saww) said,"Do not marry a woman for the following four reasons: Wealth, beauty, ancestry and lust. It is obligatory upon you to marry a woman on account of her religion."(Jaame ul Akhbar).
In yet another tradition, the Messenger of Islam (SAW) has prohibited his followers from marrying a beautiful woman from a disgraceful background.(Bihar ul Anwar, Vol 23, Pg 54).
To get a good, modest and chaste spouse is among the good fortunes of a person according to the leaders of Islam and is also considered as one of the sources by which the religion of a person can be protected. They have conveyed this message quite often that the worship of a married person is much more significant and important before Allah than that of a bachelor or a spinster.
The Holy Prophet (SAW) says:"Among the good fortunes of a man is to have a good wife."Furoo-e-Kafi, Vol. 5, Pg. 327)
Source: Excerpt from An Article by Sajjad Ali By: Yusuf G Kermalli - (Sanford, USA)
Finding A Spouse - In Light Of The Qur'an And Sunnah
http://www.rafed.net/english/women/main/family/matrimony/08-finding-a-spouse.html
In Islam it is clear that marriage is the optimum lifestyle.
"And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among
yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you
affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed Signs for people who
reflect." (30:21).
Yet, as more and more Muslims become a part of the 'West', the 'West'
becomes part of the Ummah and leads us away from the strict interpretation
of Islamic guidelines in regard to marriage.
Muslims are not permitted to touch, have social intercourse, have personal
relationships, have intimate relationships or date members of the opposite
sex outside of specific 'blood' relationships and marriage. Therefore, the
customs of the 'West' - dating, inter-gender gatherings, and Internet
communications that become personal are forbidden. There are some who would
disagree with this statement, saying that this is 'old-fashioned' and that
'times have changed'. we would counter by saying that the injunctions of the
Qur'an and Sunnah have never changed - they were written for all times and
all peoples. They are, in fact, the categorical imperative that Immanuel
Kant strove to find. This is opposed to the customs of the 'West'.
In cultures outside of Islam, dating and touching exist. We see the results
every day. Women and men go in and out of relationships, many children are
born out of wedlock, children remain fatherless. Fatherless homes are the
norm rather than the exception and these homes tend to have a lower standard
of living and a higher rate of troubled children.
Muslims are encouraged to marry - and to marry early. Holy Prophet (S.A.W.A)
said, "When a man marries, he indeed perfects half of his religion. Then
he should fear Allah for the remaining half."
Marriage eliminates the temptation for zina, thus assisting partners to
remain on the 'straight path' that Allah has created for us. Marriage is a
mercy for us.
Women are encouraged to marry a good Muslim man who offers himself. Men are
able to choose a woman based on her appearance, her wealth, her social
standing, or her God Consciousness - the latter being the greatest. Nowhere
does it say that women can choose based on educational degree or profession.
Nowhere does it say a woman or man may seek a spouse based on ethnicity or
nationality. Yet, often there are matrimonial ads placed by a woman or her
family seeking a 'professional man' or a man of specific ethnic or national
origin. Often we see matrimonial ads placed by a man looking for a woman of
specific educational degree or specific ethnicity or national origin.
The notion of 'arranged' marriages is still the Islamic way. Marriages may
be arranged by family, through a service, through friends, through
relatives. Today, especially in the West, there are many settings where
Muslims of opposite gender interact because of educational pursuit or
employment. It is possible that a couple may meet in a coeducational setting
(university) or a work setting and be attracted and wish to make intentions
for marriage. This must never be done through personal conversation or
interaction. This should not be prolonged. We know the dangers of this
situation.
The key to a good marriage arrangement is a good and capable person - one
who will do a thorough investigation and a good interview session; one in
which ALL questions are asked and answered.
In the many years we saw many people in extreme marital problems because
they did not have clear understanding of the responsibilities each expected
of the other in marriage. In Islam, this is never the case. The expectations
of marriage partners are clearly established. If there is conflict, it is
because of what we bring in - not what Islam directs.
While these are 'modern' times, Islam is the perfect religion - the
'categorical imperative' - in regard to the guidelines for life, including
marriage. AlHamdullillah!!!(Thank God) This has not changed - and will not
change.
Other than the mahram ladies whom he cannot marry, a man may
propose marriage to any single woman. (For list of the mahram ladies,
see the Qur’an 4:23-24.)
However, in the following four cases, proposal is not
appropriate.(Remember that the contemporary mujtahids have not expressed
their opinions on three of the four cases; but scholars of the early
centuries of the ghaybat have expressed their opinions.)marriage 2006
There is no such thing as an engagement ceremony in Islam. “Engagement”
is just a nonbinding agreement to marry. However, Muslims have adopted
certain traditions from other cultures or made their own customs.
Technically, if traditions don’t violate the shari‘ah laws, then there
is no problem. For example , among the Shi‘as of north India, the man’s
family go with an “Imam zămin” to the girl’s family and tie it on her
arm as a well-wish gesture for the girl – this is done by the women of
the man’s family.
These days, many Muslim cultures have adopted the Western tradition of
giving or exchanging engagement rings. Apparently, this was first done
by Maximilian I, the Holy Roman Emperor , in 1477 when he gave a diamond
ring to Mary of Burgundy. However, there is a problem in this tradition:
since the engagement does not make the man and the woman mahram to one
another, they cannot touch one another even for giving the engagement
ring,they still have to observe the rules of hijab. The only solution is
to recite the temporary nikah for the purpose of becoming mahram only.
For more details, see my
Marriage & Morals
in Islam.
These days the so-called “engagement ceremony” is becoming more like a
mini marriage ceremony! I am not saying that don’t do your engagement
ceremony – if you do it within the bounds of shari‘ah, then there is no
problem, BUT don’t over do it! Don’t rob the actual marriage of its
mystique!
Even the tradition of giving gifts –the man’s family gives to the
engaged woman– is overdone in some cultures. I am told that at every
occasion on our religious calendar, the boy’s family is expected to send
clothes and jewellery to the girl. This is okay; but it becomes a big
problem when the engagement is broken off.
1. If the engagement is broken off by one party, then the other cannot
claim for damages for breaking the agreement since it was of a
nonbinding nature. One cannot claim for damages for ‘loss of reputation’
or ‘depression’ or ‘air fare for our trips to visit you,’ or ‘the
deposit paid for the hall rental’ and etc. Remember you cannot unwind
your life; unpleasant things happen and you have to move on and carry on
with your life.
2. Of course, both parties have the right to ask back for the gifts
given to one another:
(a) If the gifts were of perishable nature (e.g., sweets), then there is
no basis for asking it back or its value.
(b) If the gifts were non-perishable (e.g., cash or jewellery),then
there is two possibilities:
i. If it still exists, then it should be given back.
ii. If it perished or doesn’t exist any more, then:
1. if it perished out of negligence, then pay its value.
2. if it perished without anyone’s fault, then there is nothing.
