The Evil-Doer is Deprived of God's Mercy
In
a very important tradition by the noble Prophet of Islam it is stated in Arabic
"Al-Naqess Melown" which means "The evil-doer is denied God's
Mercy." Undoubtedly, the Arabic term "Naqess" in this tradition
does not carry its usual meaning. It does not refer to someone without eyes, a
hand, a foot or having any other type of congenital deformity. Here it refers to
one who has not taken steps to attain wisdom, to acquire good habits nor to
adorn himself/herself with beneficial actions, and does not attend to
himself/herself by means other than eating, sleeping and lust. In fact man has
the potential to realize all the facts and attain full perfection. He should try
to do so. He should constantly strive to remove his mental, spiritual and inward
flaws. He should avoid listlessness. If he does not try to eliminate his
imperfections, then he will be spoiled just as unpalatable water does. He will
be damned and deprived of God's Mercy.Unfortunately
there are some seventy or even eighty year olds who have the mentality of a
one-year old child, and their actions and morality are similar to those of a
five-year old. They have not used the divine spiritual blessings such as
Heavenly Books; the Prophethood; the Religious Leadership of the Immaculate
Imams; the mysticism of the true mystics and the wisdom of the wise during their
lifetime. They have been only engaged in eating and drinking to expand their
body from a tiny sperm to some eighty or ninety kilograms. They could have
turned their bodies into a good tree. They could have built themselves up to
become a source of facts and perfection. However, they became proud of simply
engaging in material affairs to build up their physical form. Thus they remained
poor, imperfect and evil-doers as they first were. They had business deals and
were occupied by their desk and chair. They had wealth, a spouse and children,
but were evil-doers. Therefore, they are at a loss. They commit any form of sin
or crime, they violate other people's rights. TheyIn
another tradition from Imam Musa, the son of Jafar (Pbuh) we read: One for whom
two days are the same is at a loss; one for whom the end of the two days is the
worst time is damned; and one whose life passes and does not improve himself is
at a loss. For such a person death is better than life. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.78,
p.327; v.75, p.327, Beirut Press]There
is another tradition with nearly the same context in the authentic Shiite books
from Imam Sadiq. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.71, p.173]In
another tradition from the noble Prophet of Islam (Pbuh) we read: "One who
does business, is loved by God". Undoubtedly the highest form of doing
business and the best trade is obtaining nobility, knowledge, good and human
morality. A businessman, such as the Prophet, is a valuable being and is loved
by God.Let’s
try not to be evil-doers. Let’s not let two consecutive days of our lives be
the same. Let’s avoid denying ourselves the attainment of perfection, since in
the Hereafter whoever is short of spiritual affairs; intellectual development
and moral and practical perfection is damned and at a loss. His balance of deeds
will be light and he will deserve torture. But if the balance of his
spirituality is heavy, that is, he has good faith, morality and good deeds, then
he will prosper. Consider the following two verses of the Glorious Quran in this
regard:The
balance that they will be true (to a nicety): Those whose scale (of good) will
be heavy, will prosper. [Holy Quran: A'raf 7:8]Those
whose scale will be light, will find their souls in perdition, for that they
wrongfully treated Our Signs. [Holy Quran: A'raf 7:9]The Path to Perfection
In
the Glorious Quran, God the Benevolent has recommended that all people realize
two facts to strive towards perfection, giving due consideration to divine and
humane conditions. These two are related to the material life and the spiritual
life, which are expressed in four verses of the Chapter Al-i-Imran in the Holy
Quran.Fair
in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: women and sons; heaped-up
hoards of gold and silver; horses branded (for blood and excellence); and
(wealth of) cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this
world's life; but in nearness to God is the best of goals (to return to).Say:
Shall I give you glad tidings of things far better than those? For the righteous
are Gardens in nearness to their Lord, with rivers flowing beneath; therein is
their eternal home; with companions pure (and holy); and the good pleasure of
God. For in God's sight are (all) His servants, (namely), those who say:
"Our Lord! we have indeed believed: forgive us, then, our sins, and save us
from the agony of the Fire;"- Those whoThe
passive form of the verb "Zuyanna" in the Arabic text of the first
verse implies its importance, that is, God is the doer of the verb or the one
who makes all those facts fair in the eyes of men. This is so that they become
inclined and attracted to these issues and through this inclination, love and
attraction, they get married; work; subdue the animals; irrigate or build the
land; and they attain some productivity in their material life. On the other
hand they are also adorned with piety, faith, supplication, and fear of the
Hereafter and strive to obtain perseverance, honesty, worship, spending in
charity and imploring God's forgiveness. This is so that they can attain God's
pleasure, the promised Heaven and pure heavenly spouses.Anyway
according to the noble verses of the Glorious Quran, the cause of man's
attraction to and love for women is their delicate creation, beauty, dignity,
intrinsic shyness, delicate voice, amorous playfulness and coquetishness. This
attraction and lust is the main drive for men to become interested and fall in
love with women and get married and establish a joint life. Thus, they can have
children and work hard in business, agriculture, etc. to provide for their
material life and guarantee the continuation of the life of the household and
the family. If this is complemented with piety and is void of sin; is
accompanied with faith, supplication, perseverance, honesty, worship, spending
and imploring God's forgiveness at dawn, then man's prosperity in this world and
the Hereafter is guaranteed. Man can thus benefit from all worldly pleasures,
and vast eternal benefits, most importantly God's pleasure.How to Choose a Spouse in Islam
The
approach to choosing a spouse is much different in the angelic spirit of Islam,
when compared to those religions or schools of thought which have become void of
the spirit of revelations. Islam does not allow a believing Muslim man to choose
any woman as his wife. Neither does it allow a believing Muslim woman to choose
any man as her husband. This is so because there are certain things to be
considered in marriage, such as their well-being and prosperity in this world
and the Hereafter; immunity from corruption and Satanic plans. As viewed in
Islam, marriage is not just based on lust, carnal desires, and material gains.
The goal of Islam from marriage is to maintain people's beliefs; to build a
divine home; to raise good children; and to seek God's pleasure. It is in this
framework that all that is involved; the marriage itself; maintaining a spouse;
loving a legitimate spouse; having sex as much as either side requires;
respecting each others' rights; bearing children; raising them; carrying out the
necessary duties such as working to provide for the housing, food and clothing
of the wife and the children are all considered to be worship of God and each
step taken in this regard will have a great heavenlyAvoid
associating or marrying a woman who has not attained intellectual development
through studying; and has not helped herself reach perfection by attaining
piety, faith and morality. Such women are raised in a family void of monotheism,
morality, piety, worship and belief in God's unity. They bring nothing for their
husbands but sedition, corruption and destruction. An important tradition from
Imam Baqir (Pbuh) has been quoted as: "The Prophet (Pbuh) passed by some
women. He suddenly stopped and addressed them, and said: I have not seen any
group of people lacking wisdom and religion like you, and stealing the wisdom of
the wise. I have seen that your torture is greater than that of all the dwellers
of Hell. I strongly recommend that you try to get closer to God, by perfecting
your faith and acquiring knowledge, and good deeds." [Marriage in Islam,
p.45 as cited in Vasa'il al-Shiaa . Abvab Muqadamat Nikah]Imam
Sadiq (Pbuh) said: "The strongest enemy of a believing man is his bad
wife." [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.240]In
another tradition it has been stated: "There are six things which are
essential causes of committing sins and rebelling against God: love of this
world; love of power; excessive sleeping; love for women; love for eating and
being lazy." [Vasa'il al-Shiaa. Abvab Muqadamat Nikah, Chapter 4; Bihar al-Anwar,
v.100, p.225, Vafa Press]Thus
it is best that you confine yourself to abide by the conditions stated by Islam
in choosing a spouse. I shall express all these conditions based on traditions.
Try not to choose a spouse based on her beauty, love or wealth. The Prophet (Pbuh)
said: "Do not choose a wife for her wealth or beauty. Her wealth will cause
her rebellion, and her beauty will cause her corruption. You must consider her
faith and religiousness for marriage." [Mustadrak al-Vasa'il, On Marriage,
Ch.13]The
Prophet (Pbuh) has been quoted as saying: "If there is bad omen in
anything, that is a woman."[Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.227]In
fact if a woman is deprived of knowledge, faith, morality, good-temper, dignity
and nobility, then she is bad and will ruin her husband's life.The
Prophet (Pbuh) also said: "A bad woman is the worst thing."[Ibid]An Amazing Story
It
has been written in the commentary by Abul-Futuh-i-Razi: There was a young
fellow who would recite the call to prayer from the top of the special place onIslamic and Humane Conditions in Choosing a
Spouse
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The respectable families should provide the means for the young man and woman to
meet each other before marriage. It is not necessary to wed them to make them
Mahram (lawful to see each other) for this purpose. This has been allowed by
Islam, and is considered legitimate in Islamic jurisprudence. They must see each
other, so that they can recognize each others' good characteristics or apparent
defects, and then decide. This will also block the way for future claims. Of
course, this visit should be with the intention of getting married and deciding
whether or not to finalize the marriage. It should be void of sin.Please
notice the traditions in this regard:The
Prophet (Pbuh) told Mughayreh, the son of Shua'ba who had married a woman:
"Had you looked at her before you got married, there was more hope for you
to get along with her." [Marriage in Islam, p.47]Muhammad,
the son of Muslim, the son of Muslim" . said that he asked Imam Baqir (Pbuh):
"Does a man who wants to get married have the right to look at the
woman?" He answered: "Yes of course. He wants to purchase with the
highest price, yet how can he not look?" [Vasa'il al-Shiia, Introductory
chapters on marriage, Chapter 36]Hassan
Sary said: I asked Imam Sadiq (Pbuh): "Is it permissible for the man to
take a good look at a woman before he marries her? Can he look at her face and
the back of her head?" He answered: "Yes. It is not forbidden to look
at the back of her head or look at her face." [Vasa'il al-Shiia,
Introductory chapters on marriage, Chapter 36]A
man told the sixth Imam: "Is it permissible for a man to look at a woman's
hair and her beauties when he wants to marry her?" He said: "If he
wants to become aware of her characteristics it is all right." [Vasa'il al-Shiia,
Introductory chapters on marriage, Chapter 36]In
another tradition the Imam was asked: "Is it permissible for the woman to
stand up so that the man can see her?" He answered: "Yes, she can even
wear clothing showing the form of her body at that time." [Marriage in
Islam, p.49]The
Prophet (Pbuh) told a man from his companions who had proposed to marry a woman:
"Look at her face and her hands."These
traditions and the like imply that if someone chooses a woman to marry, after he
investigates about her family, her faith and morality, it is fine to look at her
to learn about her physical features such as her hair, her looks and beauty, her
height, and her posture. This will block any future claims about her defects
which might otherwise cause disappointment or argument. This does not mean that
men can go around to look inside every house and observe all the beauties of the
Muslim girls to choose one if they please. [Marriage in Islam, p.49]2-
When you choose a wife and decide to marry her, you must intend to marry to seek
God's pleasure, not her beauty, perfection, amorous playfulness or coquetishness.
You must act to please God and to abide His decree and to follow the tradition
of the divine Prophets, especially the noble Prophet of Islam (Pbuh) There are
many important traditions regarding marriage in order to get nearer to God and
attain His pleasure cited from the Prophet (Pbuh): One who marries for God's
sake, and strives to provide the means for the marriage of others for God's
sake, deserves to be a Friend of God. [Muhjat ul-Biyza, v.3, p.54]Yes,
people of such character and nobility deserve to be included among those
mentioned in the following verse:God
is the protector of those who have faith: from the depths of darkness He will
lead them forth into light. [Holy Quran: Baqara 2:257]God
likes men to have a wife and children. That is why He granted John to Zacharias
and granted Ismael to Abraham when they were old. God Has stated in one of the
verses of His Book to His Pure Prophet:We
did send apostles before thee, and appointed for them wives and children: [Holy
Quran: Ra'd 13:38]3-
It is not right to rush into marriage. It has been stated in Islamic teachings
that to rush into something is the work of Satan. One must be careful in
choosing a spouse. He/she must spend enough time, consult with others, and get
to know the other party and his/her family. This is all necessary so that any
great loss; spiritual, or psychological blow to either party can be avoided. In
this regard Imam Sadiq (Pbuh) said: In fact a woman is similar to a necklace. Be
careful about the necklace you wear forever. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.233, Vafa
Press]4-
The characteristics of a good woman who deserves to get married to a believing
young Muslim man have been carefully stated in credible traditions cited in
valuable Shiite books. The Prophet (Pbuh) said: When you intend to get married
to a woman, investigate about her hair as well as her face, since her hair is
also a part of her beauties. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.237]5-13-
Jaber, the son of Abdullah Ansari has stated: "We were sitting with the
Prophet(Pbuh). Then we started to talk about women, and how some are superior to
others. The Prophet (Pbuh) asked if he should talk to us in this regard, and we
welcomed his proposal. He said the best of your women is one who is kind; bears
children; is chaste; is respected in her family; and is humble to her husband;
beutifies herself only for her husband and is respectful but indifferent to
others; obeys her husband; submits to him in private but does not act like dirty
old men. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.235]14
to 18- The Commander of the Faithful (Pbuh) said: The best of your women have
five traits. He was asked what they were. Then he answered: leniency;
good-temperedness; easy to get along with; one who does not rest until her
husband is pleased and calm once he gets angry; protects her husband's honor in
his absence. Such a woman is one of the agents of God and should not be
disappointed of God's Mercy. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.231]19-
Imam Baqir (Pbuh) said: A man consulted with the Prophet(Pbuh) regarding
marriage. The Prophet (Pbuh) said: "Get married, but with a religious
woman. God will give you a good reward. A good woman is similar to an especial
crow which is hard to get." The man asked what especial crow? He responded:
"One with one white leg." [Marriage in Islam, p.59]20
to 21- Abraham Karkhy said that he told Imam Sadiq (Pbuh): "My wife who was
my companion has died and now I am considering getting married again." The
Imam told him: "Be extremely careful with whom you marry and share all your
secrets, wealth, religion and trust. If you have no choice but to marry, find a
well-behaved and good-tempered young woman." [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.232]22-
The Prophet (Pbuh) said: One of the beneficial things that God has destined for
a Muslim man is a woman looking at whom pleases him, one who protects his honor
in his absence; and one who obeys him in his presence. [Marriage in Islam, p.60]23-
The Prophet (Pbuh) said: "The noblest woman in my nation is one with the
most beauty and a nuptial gift of the least amount." [Bihar al-Anwar,
v.100, p.236]24-
The Commander of the Faithful (Pbuh) said: The Prophet (Pbuh) asked the people:
Let me know what is best for women? Fatimah (Pbuh) responded: That she does not
see men, and men do not see her, too. The Prophet (Pbuh) who was amazed at this
response said: Fatimah is the chip off the old block![Bihar al-Anwar, v.100,
p.238]25-26-
Imam Sadiq (Pbuh) said: The best of your women is one who is grateful if you
give her property, and if for some reason you denied her of some property she is
pleased and satisfied." [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.239]27-30-
The sixth Imam (Pbuh) said: The best of your women is one who smells good; cooks
well; spends properly; abstains from spending at the right time.31-
The Prophet (Pbuh) said: The most blessed wife is one who imposes the least
expenses upon her husband. [Marriage in Islam, p.70]32-34-
The Commander of the Faithful (Pbuh) said: The best characteristics of a woman
in marriage are the worst of men's characteristics: pride, fear and jealousy. If
she has pride, she will not submit to anyone but her husband. If she is jealous,
she protects their belongings, and if she has fear, then she gets afraid of any
circumstances and tries to protect herself. Thus she will not fall prey to
others. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.238]35-38-
The Prophet (Pbuh) said: Marry virgin girls. They have sweeter lips, and tighter
wombs. They learn faster, and their love for their husband and mutual life is
more lasting. [Bihar al-Anwar, v.100, p.237]39
to 40- Imam Sadiq (Pbuh) said: The best of your women is one who is no longer
shy when she is undressed in private quarters with her husband. And when she
wears her clothes, she is shy. [Marriage in Islam, p.67]These
are the characteristics of a good Muslim woman. Our dear young Muslim men should
look for these nearly forty traits in women. Once they find one with a
reasonable amount of positive traits, then they should choose her as their wife
and the mother of their children. They should try not to be too strict in
choosing a spouse, since such an obsession will make it hard to marry.